How to avoid over texting dating
As if communication between men and women isn’t hard enough…now we all get to contend with the added mysteries that go along with texting.Our favorite guest blogger Lindsay Tigar is back to break it all down for us. Admit it: When you like a guy and you’ve been out a few times (or even just once) – you get a little obsessive over his text messages.You’ll take screenshots of what he says and send it to all of your friends, asking for advice on what it really means.
You might even send what you intend to respond with to your friends, too – just so you have a second opinion.
It’s okay – but before you waste energy or spend anymore time with your i Phone, real dudes dish on what they’re really thinking when they send (or don’t send) those text messages. I have a work thing until late tonight, but would you want to get drinks near my place at 10 p.m.? What men mean: “I’m not saying I just want to see you when I’m drunk and close to home, but I’m not NOT saying I just want to see you when I’m drunk and close to home.” – Max, 26, New York “If it was just drinks out after the work thing, I’d say he is sincere.
” What we think: Is it bad to meet up that late for a first date? But around my place portrays a different meaning.” -Jake, 27, South Carolina Text message: “I had a lot of fun last night.
I’m going to be really busy at work for the next few weeks.” What we think: He’s going to be busy for a few weeks, that’s fine!
Maybe I’ll just check-in from time-to-time to see if he’s feeling less stressed.
Maybe I could plan the dates to make it easier on him. I am actually usually really busy at work, but if I wanted to see you, I’d make an effort. ” -Jeremy, 27, New York “If I really was busy for the next few weeks at work, I would have brought it up when we hung out last night.
So if I’m sending this text I’m pretty explicitly trying to pump the brakes or avoid you all together.” – Vish, 26, New York “Had a good time.
Got a lot of things happening…don’t want to lose the relationship but other commitments come first at this stage of the relationship.” –Jeremy, 26, New York Text message: “Hey, what’s up?
” (A week after your really great, amazing first date.) What we think: Oh, so you didn’t disappear on me!
Maybe he was just really preoccupied and didn’t have a chance to reach out.
I’ll wait a while to respond and then see what he has to say. What men mean: “I’m bored and you’re still in my phone book.” -Jake, 27, South Carolina “Guys get distracted, whether it be work, hanging out with friends, or spotting something shiny on a walk in the park. I still think this means, ‘hey, what are you doing?